I Choose You Today: 31 Choices to Make Love Last

Married for nearly 38 years, author Deborah DeArmond and her husband have made the spoken declaration, “I choose you today” a regular part of their communication. It’s when we least feel like saying it that we need to remind ourselves that love is a choice, not a feeling. I Choose You Today features 31 scriptural principles that support marriage and help couples develop healthy biblically based behavior.

Built on an introductory anecdotal story, each chapter has an inspirational takeaway of not only what to do, but how to begin applying the principles immediately. Thought provoking questions create talking points for couples to explore their own choices and experiences in each area serve to generate open dialogue of discovery. I Choose You Today is not a book of “shoulds,” but one of clearly identified choices that each individual can make to grow their marriage and align it with the word of God. Every saying ends with a conventional wisdom quote.

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  1. I’ve been married for 3 months and it hasn’t been fun. We have good days and bad, but there’s been more bad. I don’t know if it’s because we are both stubborn and we want to be heard and not listen. I’m emotional and he’s not. We are going through a rough patch right now, Im insecure and I’m constantly telling him to reassure me and when he doesn’t I make things up in my mind I start accusing him. I’m scared that I don’t stop that I will loose him. We haven’t talked is going to be two days I called a horrible name and I think he’s waiting for an apology, but I can’t because my insecurities kicked in

    • I’m so sorry you’ve experienced a difficult start to your marriage. If it make you feel any better, many couples find it to be much harder than they expected. You’ve already diagnosed what I think is at the heart of the problem: “we are both stubborn and want to be heard and not listen.” Sounds like me and my husband 40+ years ago. That’s an issue that can and must be addressed. You will always end up at odds if you are unable or unwilling to address this damaging pattern of communication. As the book suggests, love (and respect and being open, etc) are all choices. You’re accusing him and afraid you will lose him. So – what will you choose? Don’t wait for hi to go first – you can change the direction of this right now. Apologize for your part in the conflict and START TALKING again.

      I would absolutely recommend my newest book on conflict in marriage written with my husband, Ron. It’s called Don’t Go to Bed Angry. Stay Up and Fight. I pray you will recognize the importance of honoring God in your marriage. The Bible will provide much direction for you that is time tested to be successful.