I Choose You Today: 31 Choices to Make Love Last
Deb’s Newest Book – Releasing on January 6, 2015!
What’s the secret for hanging on to the happily ever after feelings from the day you said, “I do?”
It could be as simple as four little words: I Choose You Today
Whatever you feed, grows…. Words have the power to create. They also have the power to destroy. Everyday you have the power to choose which it will be for your marriage.
The spoken word is powerful. God spoke the world and life itself into existence. We enter into life in Christ by a confession of our mouth. We will overcome by the blood of the lamb and the word of our testimony. Faith, spoken, moves mountains. Our words can bless or curse. Words count.
What if we could enrich and preserve our marriages, breathing life into them by a daily profession of commitment to our relationship—one that aligns with the Word of God? Regardless of how we may feel in the moment, choosing to bless, not curse our union.
Married for nearly 40 years, Deb and her husband have made the declaration, “I Choose You Today” a regular part of their communication. “It’s when we least feel like it that we need to remind ourselves that love is a choice. Sometimes it’s with a smile and a hug, and other times it’s through gritted teeth. But it always brings us back to center – our desire to align our lives with the Word of God.”
In a society that embraces “no-fault” divorce and a disposable, one-time-use mindset, authentic commitment is hard to achieve. God asks more of us—He asks it for us because His intention is always to benefit His children. He knows a life committed to living the scripture—being patient, kind, offering forgiveness, and loving one another heaps rewards on those willing to choose it. Everybody wins and Christ is honored.
I Choose You Today is a tool for encouraging couples to walk daily not only as husband and wife, but also as brother and sister, united in the Lord to live the life that He meant for us to enjoy.
What People Are Saying About the Book
“It’s often been said that our choices define us. That’s true personally, but it’s also a key to our relationships. Deb DeArmond has provided a practical and insightful book detailing 31 choices we can make as husbands and wives that have the potential to transform even a good marriage – and make it a great one.” -Greg Smalley, Vice President of Family Ministry, Focus on the Family
“There is no deeper joy in life than great love. Fortunately for us, I Choose You Today, gives us a clear roadmap to achieving it with our spouse. Every couple- married or not- will benefit from reading Ms. DeArmond’s book.” – Meg Meeker, M.D., best-selling author of Strong Fathers,Strong Daughters and Co-host of Dr. James Dobson’s Family Talk radio broadcast
“Wow. Deb DeArmond’s new book, I Choose You Today, is simply outstanding! It should be required reading for all young couples getting married or even those contemplating divorce. Time and again I was inspired by new insights that appeared in every chapter. If you want a better marriage, this book is essential reading.” – Rick Johnson, bestselling author of Becoming Your Spouse’s Better Half and Romancing Your Better Half.
Related by Chance, Family by Choice
Transforming Mother-in-Law and Daughter-in-Law Relationships
What does it take to create true family unity between moms and the women who marry their sons?
The caricatures are everywhere, the jokes are inexhaustible, and the stereotypes fill the screens. From Marie Barone (Everyone Loves Raymond) to Viola Fields (Monster-in-Law) to Internet sites and social media pages like ihatemyinlaws.com and a Facebook page for ihatemymotherinlaw there is no shortage of examples of the caustic relationships that can develop between the two women in a man’s life.
Deb DeArmond and her three daughters-in-law have conducted their own exhaustive research into the status of the women-in-law relationship. Their research, which incorporated online surveys, interviews, and discussions, included asking about the faith factor in the relationships they studied. Of the respondents, nearly 90 percent claimed they were Christians, and 79 percent said their faith was foundational and guided their actions and decisions. As discouraging as it may be, the numbers of those they surveyed who reported that their women-in-law relationships were “bad” were nearly identical to those in a survey conducted by a popular secular website that recorded no statistics on faith.
Beyond the statistics and their analysis, Deb brings to this book more than thirty years working with adults to improve communications and deal constructively with conflict. Aside from her research and her professional expertise, perhaps the most important asset Deb brings to this work is her own relationship with her three daughters-in-law that is so obviously and unusually positive that she—and they—are often asked to explain the secret of the relationships they share.
This practical and unapologetically scriptural book covers issues of personal perceptions, strained communication, the roles of sons and fathers in the relationship’s success, how to begin these relationships on the right foot, and the necessity of trust and love. Deb’s one motivating objective is to help women-in-law move from women who are simply related to strong and confident members of a truly spiritual family.
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What People Are Saying About the Book
co-author of Just 18 Summers (releasing in spring 2014)
co-author of We Laugh, We Cry, We Cook
Joann Cole Webster
Vice President, Christian Men’s Network
Co-chair Global Operations, Billion Soul Network
Author of Identity Theft: Whose Life Are You Living?
Editor-in-chief for LivingBetter50.com
author or co-author of five books, including I Believe in Healing and I Believe in Heaven (with Cecil Murphey)
founder, Faithful Men Ministries