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Related by Chance, Family by Choice

Transforming Mother-in-Law and Daughter-in-Law Relationships

What does it take to create true family unity between moms and the women who marry their sons?

The caricatures are everywhere, the jokes are inexhaustible, and the stereotypes fill the screens. From Marie Barone (Everyone Loves Raymond) to Viola Fields (Monster-in-Law) to Internet sites and social media pages like and a Facebook page for ihatemymotherinlaw there is no shortage of examples of the caustic relationships that can develop between the two women in a man’s life.

Deb DeArmond and her three daughters-in-law have conducted their own exhaustive research into the status of the women-in-law relationship. Their research, which incorporated online surveys, interviews, and discussions, included asking about the faith factor in the relationships they studied. Of the respondents, nearly 90 percent claimed they were Christians, and 79 percent said their faith was foundational and guided their actions and decisions. As discouraging as it may be, the numbers of those they surveyed who reported that their women-in-law relationships were “bad” were nearly identical to those in a survey conducted by a popular secular website that recorded no statistics on faith.

Beyond the statistics and their analysis, Deb brings to this book more than thirty years working with adults to improve communications and deal constructively with conflict. Aside from her research and her professional expertise, perhaps the most important asset Deb brings to this work is her own relationship with her three daughters-in-law that is so obviously and unusually positive that she—and they—are often asked to explain the secret of the relationships they share.

This practical and unapologetically scriptural book covers issues of personal perceptions, strained communication, the roles of sons and fathers in the relationship’s success, how to begin these relationships on the right foot, and the necessity of trust and love. Deb’s one motivating objective is to help women-in-law move from women who are simply related to strong and confident members of a truly spiritual family.


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What People Are Saying

“There wouldn’t be so many in-law jokes if more mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law read Related by Chance, Family by Choice. Deborah DeArmond provides tips, strategies, and stories to assist women in navigating these sometimes murky waters, helping families find clear sailing for the years ahead. Don’t miss this book!”

Michelle Cox

co-author of Just 18 Summers (releasing in spring 2014)

“As a mother-in-law to five daughters-in-law, each with completely unique personalities, this book is a godsend of encouragement. No relationship is fraught with more possibilities of a close lifelong friendship, or going terribly wrong. Every mother of a grown son, and every woman who marries a man with a mama, needs this book. So thankful someone had the wisdom and courage to write it!”

Becky Johnson

co-author of We Laugh, We Cry, We Cook

Related by Chance is a terrific tool for all relationships, and especially for the sometimes touchy in-law variety. Using interesting quizzes and facts, Deb DeArmond has made could have been a painful subject into a fascinating relational journey. She has paired thirty years of being a corporate trainer with thirty-plus years as a Christ-following mother, and written a challenging book that is also fun! Related by Chance is terrific.”

Joann Cole Webster

Vice President, Christian Men’s Network

Co-chair Global Operations, Billion Soul Network

“Deborah DeArmond’s new book, Related by Chance, Family by Choice teaches how to evaluate “in-law” relationships with Biblical acuity and perceptiveness. She winsomely persuades that “in-law” relationships can truly be “in-love” relationships. You will profoundly benefit from Deborah’s keen insight into the scriptures and her down to earth illustrations and practical life applications. ”

Laurie Dodds

Author of Identity Theft: Whose Life Are You Living?

Related by Chance, Family By Choice by Deborah DeArmond is original and fresh—full of excellent insights, tips, and probing exercises that encourage you to consider the perspective of your own “women-in-laws.” I love the fact that it exposes the world’s view of the “in-law” mentality and emphasis how to build stronger more loving relationships with your “in-loves.”

Carol Doyel

Editor-in-chief for

“With godly wisdom, insight, and abundant ideas and tips, Deborah DeArmond equips “women-in-law” who love the same man with all they need to do life together well. The book is an excellent resource that I will refer to again and again.”

Twila Belk

author or co-author of five books, including I Believe in Healing and I Believe in Heaven (with Cecil Murphey)

“Twenty-six years of ministry to men, I never realized how little I knew or considered my wife’s (or my own) relationship with our daughter-in-law(love, Lord). Deb’s in-depth & concise communication gift reveals the necessary ingredients for the family God meant us to experience. Thank you for opening my “eyes” after 45 years of marriage.”

Jack King

founder, Faithful Men Ministries