Do We Love? Or Do We Love Well?

Posted by on 01. 15. 2015 in Communication, Family, Relationships, The Christian Walk, Uncategorized | 1 comment

Today we have a special treat: a guest post from Kathy Collard Miller and her husband, Larry Miller.  This article is excerpted from their newly released book, Never Ever Be the Same (Leafwood Publishers) which offers Christians hope that they can change their ungodly reactions through identifying their self-protective strategies and trusting God instead. The book includes biblical principles, insightful stories, and helpful instruction, and it  has individual and group discussion questions. I hope you enjoy!   Do we love our family...

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Early Warning System

Posted by on 01. 14. 2015 in Communication, The Christian Walk, Uncategorized | 2 comments

By Deb DeArmond The lock on the high-rise restroom door seemed a little loose. I wasn’t sure I could trust it. So when I heard another woman enter, I cleared my throat, putting her on notice: this stall is not available. She clearly understood the signal, passed by and entered the stall two beyond mine. The system worked. It got me to thinking about the unspoken language we all seem to understand. . . Sitting in church when my sons were teens often produced another of those trust is thin moments. I could see them from my vantage point. They...

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Release Day! I Choose You Today!

Posted by on 01. 6. 2015 in Communication, Marriage, Relationships, The Christian Walk, Uncategorized | 1 comment

My new book, I Choose You Today: 31 Choices to Make Love Last, officially releases today! It’s now available in both paperback or electronic book at Amazon, and even online at Target! I invite you to join us for our upcoming 31 Week Challenge. It’s going to be great fun with free tools and resources, drawing for prizes and opportunities to share your story and hear that of others. You will be automatically enrolled for the challenge and eligible for the freebies by subscribing to this website. I hope you will...

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Where There’s a Will, He Makes the Way!

Posted by on 12. 1. 2014 in Archives, Family, The Christian Walk, Uncategorized | 2 comments

“Debbie has a tendency toward willfulness.” My mother spent much of my third grade year in the hospital. She suffered from terrible headaches that often sent her to bed. There were no MRI’s in 1963, and there were few treatments for what we now call migraines. A brain tumor was suspected as she went from hospital to hospital. I spent those weeks sitting in white-walled waiting rooms, with the bitter smell of antiseptic, fearing my mom would die. At eight, it seemed like a reasonable fear. What was not reasonable was the fear that struck once...

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Interview: Holidays are Coming – How “Bout the In-Laws?

Posted by on 11. 26. 2014 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

I was honored to be Jeanne Dennis’ guest on her show “Heritage of Truth.” This interview was filmed in June at the International Christian Retail Show. The timing is perfect as the holiday season approaches, it often means time with the in-laws. Those interactions can be great if the relationship is good. If it’s not, those can be really long days. You will find the interview here: Deb DeArmond / Heritage of  Truth...

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Different’s Not Wrong, It’s Just Different!

Posted by on 11. 25. 2014 in Family, Home, Just for Fun, Uncategorized | 0 comments

This will be a different kind of Thanksgiving holiday. Many of our family members (and some oft-included friends) will be traveling this year to see family in other places. Instead of our usual table for 35 or so, we will be fourteen for turkey. Different. Especially since the chief turkey briner/cook will not be present. No worries, our matriarch will step in to baste that bird into glorified goodness. I don’t need to double or triple the side dishes, and we will cut the recipe for pumpkin cheesecake in half. I’ve included it...

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Book Cover Reveal: I Choose You Today

Posted by on 10. 23. 2014 in Books by Deb DeArmond, Marriage, Relationships, The Christian Walk | 0 comments

The cover for my new book, I Choose You Today: 31 Choices to Make Love Last, has been visible on all the online bookseller sites for months. So I thought it was time to share it with all of you, here at Family Matters. The publisher, Abingdon Press, did a beautiful job and I couldn’t be more pleased. I hope  you like it too! Look for it beginning January 6,...

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It’s a (Simply) Wonderful Life

Posted by on 10. 21. 2014 in Family, Grandparenting, Just for Fun, Uncategorized | 0 comments

Christmas trees have appeared in the big box stores in my area. Wreaths, garland, and red velvet ribbon can be easily located. I’ve yet to hear carols piped into the mall, but my bet is that it won’t be long. This year we will be blessed with five little grandboys gathered in our home for the holidays. A sixth is waiting in the wings, scheduled to arrive after the New Year. The boys range in age from 3 months to 7 years old. It’s going to be noisy. And messy. And all kinds of wonderful. As “Papa” and I consider the gift lists, I feel certain...

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Posted by on 08. 15. 2014 in Adult Children, Family, Uncategorized | 1 comment

by Deb DeArmond I watched my son’s face as he changed his first really messy diaper for his newborn son—his first child. Only a few days old, my grandboy had taken the exercise seriously and had delivered an impressive load. My husband and I were enjoying the moment, watching our son and his son together. The baby looked relieved and relaxed. My son did not. I could tell this was a moment my son would never forget, nor would he look forward to repeating it any time soon. Later, as we sat together with a sleeping baby nestled against my...

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Posted by on 07. 9. 2014 in Archives, Communication, Marriage, Uncategorized | 2 comments

By Deb DeArmond   “Hi Sweetheart. How was your day? Did you make arrangements with the vet for the dog while we’re on vacation?” “My day was fine. And yup, dog is all squared away,” he responded. “Did you check on whether we can change seats to sit together on the outbound flight?” “No, I forgot. I’ll do it as soon as we hang up. Any mail today?” It’s what often passes for communication when one of us is traveling. It’s necessary, I guess, but hardly the fascinating conversation of a couple still in love. It happens at the end of long...

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