Deb is an author, a speaker, and relationship coach—helping others improve their interactions at work and at home. Her first book, Related by Chance, Family by Choice: Transforming Mother-in-Law and Daughter-in-Law Relationships was released in November 2013 by Kregel Publications.
Family dynamics are Deb’s passion and her writing explores marriage, grandparenting, in-law and extended family relationships. Abingdon Press released her newest book, I Choose You Today: 31 Choices to Make Love Last in January of 2015. Her newest book about marital conflict, Don’t Go To Bed Angry. Stay Up and Fight! will release in June of 2016. Her work has been featured in several magazines including Lifeway’s Mature Living, WHOA for Women, and the Kingdom Life Now.
Deb is wife to her high school sweetheart who showed her the path to become a Christ follower 42 years ago. Mom to three incredible sons and daughters-in-law. Gigi to six perfect grandboys. But Jesus is her favorite, and the others have learned to live with it.
Deb loves to travel, and considers herself a foodie. Her idea of the perfect job would be to travel on someone else’s dime, writing about her experiences, and eating her way around the world!
Deb and her husband Ron, live in the Dallas/Fort Worth area. Learn more about Deb, her books, and her ministry at Deb DeArmond/Family Matters (www.debdearmond.com)
Deb would love to speak at your next event. Uses the Contact page on this site to explore this opportunity.
About this Site
Why is it we often reserve our best behavior, exercise the greatest level of patience, and use our most skilled communication with those OUTSIDE our family units? Is it because they don’t have to like us, much less love us, so we put in greater effort? Or perhaps we don’t want to be the outsider at work, or lose a friendship we enjoy, so we “clean up” and put our best foot forward?
I’m not sure, but you get the picture. We can do better.
How do I know? Cause we’re living it every day. And though it’s not perfect – it’s really good and getting better. I don’t think I have been extraordinarily lucky – although I know I’ve been blessed with what my mother would call, “good stock” when it comes to my hubby. Lots to work with there right from the start. And working together is how it continues to get better every day. Three sons rounded out our immediate group, but as you can see in the photo above – they’ve been busy. They added wonderful wives and six perfect (nearly) grandboys. That’s right – no pink in my tribe. I’m the queen of the testosterone zone, and I love it. My daughters-in-law are my wonderful reinforcements and partners in crime.
Relationships are among our greatest challenges and our greatest gifts. I believe it’s possible to have sound, healthy family relationships even though I admit it may not always be easy. This site seeks to explore how to do it, not in our own strength or ability, but how to do it God’s way – by walking, not in the law, but in love. And you can borrow His love if your tank is running low.
Family was God’s idea from the beginning. When we show up as real, transparent and open to His spirit, He can use our lives as a testament to His grace, His love, and His beautiful design. We don’t have to be perfect. We just have to be committed to the One who is, and apply His lessons each day. Some days will be tough. Others will be better. But God spreads grace like a four year-old spreads peanut butter on toast – thick, messy, and dripping over the edges.
When I selected a graphic for this site, the concept of “bridging” relationships appealed to me, hence the picture of a picturesque bridge. We need to work toward creating the connections that move us closer together and help us close up the gap that can divide and separate.
This site is about finding our way as family, with Jesus as our guide. I’m hoping that you will stay tuned and join the conversation. I’d love to hear your stories – both the good and the bad. What have you done to build your family relationships? Your marriage? And how about your in-law relationships? What steps have you taken to establish, rescue, improve or prepare for living the life God intended when He created you and your family? And how about your relationships with spouses, siblings, aging parents and beyond? I want to hear it all.
So, tell me your stories…….. You can use the form below to share your experiences or ask me to contact you via email if you prefer.